According to philosopher Cicero gratitude could be called the mother of all virtues. According to science it is not one of the basic emotions, so unlike anger, sadness, or happiness there’s no “universal expression” or firm definition for gratitude, and therefore it is a little hard to define. Oxford dictionary describes gratitude as “the quality or condition of being thankful, the appreciation of an inclination to return kindness”.
The majority of us are familiar with the idea of being grateful for something - we learn from an early age to say “thank you” when we receive birthday gifts, or someone holds the door open for us. But what does gratitude itself really mean? How we can express gratitude, and all the benefits that come with it? Robert Emmons, psychology professor and gratitude researcher at the University of California, Davis, explains that there are two key components of practicing gratitude:
We affirm the good things we’ve received
We acknowledge the role other people play in providing our lives with goodness
It’s only in the past few decades that researchers have started to investigate how we benefit from expressing gratitude and paying it forward. In one study, researchers examined the brains of participants who were asked how grateful they would feel in hypothetical scenarios where complete strangers saved their lives.
Practicing gratitude can potentially have a positive impact on our mental health over time.
They found that, “when participants reported those grateful feelings, their brains showed activity in a set of regions located in the medial pre-frontal cortex, an area in the frontal lobes of the brain where the two hemispheres meet. This area of the brain is associated with understanding other people’s perspectives, empathy, and feelings of relief.” Therefore, practicing gratitude can potentially have a positive impact on our mental health over time.
You can strengthen your capacity for gratitude by keep a gratitude journal. You can do this once a day, a week, or as often as you feel the desire to. Here’s how:
- Write down three to five things for which you feel grateful. The physical record is important—don’t just do this exercise in your head.
- The things you list can be relatively small in importance (“The tasty sandwich I had for lunch today.”) or relatively large (“My sister gave birth to a healthy baby boy.”).
- The goal of the exercise is to remember a good event, experience, person, or thing in your life—then enjoy the good emotions that come with it.
Another study, with patients with heart disease has even showed that keeping this journal increased their heart health and quality of sleep (perhaps because it reduces stress). Counting your blessings can literally make you happier and healthier.
Studies have proven that keeping a gratitude journal can lead to improvements in mind, body and relationships.
Just as a summary, here is a little table that ou can print and put on your desk, your planner or even your computer, to practice gratitude and improve your overall outlook in life!
