1. Never EVER give others a higher priority than yourself.
This might seem a hard truth or even sound a little selfish, but think about it, even with your own kids, if you are not well, how will you take care of others? Children, for instance, learn much more from example than from whatever you have to say. If they see you taking care of yourself, they will embrace that example, they will absorb that information and practice it in life later on.
This is valid for anything that makes you feel good about yourself. It is a matter of making yourself a priority and trying to focus on those long-term, healthy habits, that will make you proud of yourself in the future.
If you were ever asked “where do you see yourself in 5 years?” that’s exactly what we are talking about. You need to walk the road that is necessary to get to who you want to be, and that implies making hard choices and putting yourself first. If you are well, people around you will be drawn to you, see you as an example and inspiration.
2. Never take ANYONE for granted.
We tend to do this with the people we love the most. Because we relax, we think they will always be there, no matter what. And that might be true, but no one likes to be ignored, and be taken for granted. Anything in life, worthwhile, requires effort and dedication. So why not show people you love them, that you care for them? Small gestures go such a long way. Buy a drink to a friend. Get some flowers for our wife. Give a foot massage to your fiancé. Take your parents on a weekend-long-vacation. Why not? Just make sure people around you know their worth, this might make their day, or even save their lives!
3. Never ever judge someone unless you walk into their shoes.
This is a universal truth. We all struggle in life. We all have our shortcomings and blind sides. And we can never judge anyone unless we have lived their lives in their shoes, facing their reality and difficulties. Human beings have a whole universe within, they are extremely complex, and until you feel with their heart, think with their mind, in the conditions they have available at that moment, and facing their reality, we have no right to judge them!
4. Addictions hijack the best of you.
We are talking about drugs, smoking, drinking, adult content, sugar, you name it. Any addiction is bad for you. If you are not in control, it is not good for you. And if you struggle with some kind of addiction, don’t be ashamed to ask for help, that is the first step towards healing. You do not want to waste another second of your life not being in control of it. You are strong, so reach out for help, and do not blame yourself, the world can be a nasty place and we all wish we could hide from it once in a while.
5. Never ever GIVE UP. (your time is yet come, don’t worry.)
I have come to the awareness, in my life, that many people are on the verge of a breaking point, even thinking about taking their own lives, but the worst day of your life can be right before the best one. So, think that, if you give up today, you won’t see the beauty of tomorrow. Keep hanging on because life is much more than just pain and suffering and struggle. You need to keep pushing, for when you feel you have no strength left, but you have fought everything with a smile, life will start smiling back at you and the good things in life will eventually start pouring down on you.
6. Never waste your time with people who make you feel worthless
Whether it’s friends or family or spouse, nobody has the right to make you feel bad or diminish you, in any way. If you start feeling disrespected, disregarded or unloved, just walk away. If the person really cares about you, they will seek you out, and they will try to change. Do not give people the power to control your mood, your days or, most importantly, your worth. And also, don’t forget those who stood by you during hard times, friends and/or family who helped you when you most needed deserve every bit of gratitude you have. Life is hard on everyone, if somebody went out of their way to help you, cherish them.
7. Never treat anyone differently or badly, animals included.
Don’t be rude to your parents, they love you above anything else. We all have childhood traumas, but our parents only did the best they could, with what they were taught. Don’t ever diminish anyone below you in authority. Don’t be a boss, be a leader. Don’t make people feel bad, love them. And never treat people differently because of their race, gender, religion or sexual orientation. Embrace difference instead of fighting it because you fear it or don’t understand. We all grow outside our comfort zone. Be sure to surround yourself with people who actually think differently from you, because they are the ones who will help you evolve as a human being.
And last, but not least, you can tell a lot from a person who treats a helpless animal badly. If you can’t take care of someone / something who cannot take care of themselves, work on yourself. It’s for those who don’t have a voice that we ours is more meaningful.
8. Never DEPEND on other people, get your work done by yourself.
Stop using excuses! You can do it. Force yourself to do the work. Find a method that works for you. Be disciplined and reap what you sow. There’ so much pleasure in seeing the work you have done, bear its fruits. Don’t be lazy, get up and get going. Do everything by yourself and you will have no one to blame, but also won’t have to share any credits. Believe in yourself!
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